Catching Up....

Here are some overdue Easter pics & stories (see above: investigating her Easter candy up close with her new magnifying glass). Its been a busy week & I have managed to come down with a pretty bad case of bronchitis. But, mom & dad have helped out a lot, taking Lilly both days this weekend so I can rest. I do pretty good if I don't have to talk or move much...but then as soon as either of those have to happen I am a coughing mess.

The funniest overdue story is from Good Friday (what I am now referring to as The Great Milk Debacle of 2009) .... the Coopers ended up coming over for a last minute dinner. It had been a long week for all, and so lets just say that after a long week, and a good dinner, the three adults let our parent radar fall just a smidge...and man did we pay for it! The kids were running around playing and having a great time while we chatted at the table. They came in and asked for more milk in their sippy cups, which we gave them. About five minutes later they came back and asked for more milk. I looked at Lil and asked what she was doing with the milk...to which she replied "We're not spitting it on your bed." !!!!!! So I asked immediately got up and headed back to see what they were spitting it on...turns out they were taking gulps of milk and spitting it at each other and doing this all over the house. EVERYTHING was COVERED in milk...my bedroom, her bedroom, the bathroom, the hallway, and a lovely path to through the dining room. So - we each grabbed our kids and gave them a talking to & jumped into clean up mode. Jackson immediately jumped on the clean up and be good train. Lilly...not so much. She had a complete meltdown...screaming and crying and throwing herself on the floor...for an HOUR! I kept telling her that she either needed to be in timeout or cleaning up. She didn't help clean up...so I kept putting her back in timeout. She kept standing up and throwing herself on the floor....and teh HILARIOUS part was that everytime she got up, Jackson would come wipe down the timeout chair. After 45 min - an hour, she finally pulled herself together and helped clean up and apologized to all involved. I think she had never been in that much trouble before and didn't quite know what to do with herself. So, for Good Friday, Kendra, Coop, Jackson, me and eventually Lilly mopped the floors of the whole house, and had to soak the various fabric items that had been doused with milk before it went sour. They also managed to spill milk all over the scrapbook I had made of her year in Guatemala...but luckily we were able to pull out the actual scrap pages and save those, but the book and photo sleeves had to be trashed. When Kendra told Jackson they were going to Mae Mae's house for Easter dinner...his comment was "we don't spit milk at Mae Mae's" Uh...right. Thus endeth The Great Milk Debacle of 2009.

The pics of the egg hunt here are from a party we went to the Saturday before Easter at one of Lilly's classmate's house. It was a fabulous party that the whole neighborhood participated in, and they had one whole yard for the "under 5" crowd and four other yards for the "above 5" crowd...and the cul de sac was filled with all of the neighbor's grills. Too fun.

Easter was fun too, and included one other Lilly meltdown, but she pulled it together after 10 minutes or so. The Easter Bunny was a hit...and she is still enjoying the stamps, magnifying glass and gardening gloves.

We took some video and I am trying to learn how to upload it, but I need some technical assistance from Rhonda...but stay tuned!!!!

easter sneak peek...

Running late, but I know there is a certain someone (Jo!) who needs a picture fix...so here is a sneak peek of the Easter fun....I promise there is more to come.....

Nice Day at The Botanical Gardens...

We both had a blast...we even saw a bald eagle & its nest....very cool...enjoy the pics of our first AMAZINGLY beautiful day of the season...

Random pictures...

Enjoy some pics from the past month that I hadn't had a chance to share with you yet!

Puddle stomping in her cute ladybug getup...
Swimming with her "gog-noggles" in the bathtub....

not so good at playing...

I have come to the conclusion recently that I am really great at doing fun activities with Lilly...but that I really (and I mean REALLY) struggle to just "play" with her. I can do games, and bike rides and throw a ball and bake cookies, read books and do art projects and come up with ideas of things to make and do. But, when she wants to play pretend...I struggle.

She often wants to pretend to go on an adventure...I try to play along, but inevitably I do it wrong and Lilly has to correct me. I also really struggle to keep a smile on my face during these escapades. She wants to climb in the bathtub & pretend its a train, then run room to room away from a monster. I just struggle to keep up with the scenario so I don't screw it up. Again. Like I did last time.

It didn't really sink in for me until the other day that there was such a distinction between the types of play that we do, and what a difference my enjoyment & interaction is. I am always advocating crafts and activities, and she is usually lobbying to "play toys" (meaning Diego figures) or just play pretend.

I also find it interesting that I struggle in this area, as my mom tells me I was quite the imaginary play child myself all those decades ago. So I don't know if that part of my brian is long unused & dusty, or if I just can't follow someone else's imaginary lead (which sounds more like my bossy self anyway).

Just one of those funny insights I thought I would share. I get a lot of comments and emails from folks who read my blog about all the things I "do" with Lilly, and it only recently occurred to me that I do that because that's something I can do that I know we will both enjoy. Otherwise...its a painful evening or afternoon of pretend play where I am struggling to keep up and fake it. So...bring on the projects!!!

7 days straight...

So...for the record...she wore her Diego costume 7 days in a row - including to school every day this week. She was quite adamant about it actually. When I dropped her off Friday, her teacher told me that she had been acting up on Thursday and that they told her if Diego couldn't behave, then he would have to go back to the jungle and Lilly would have to put on regular Lilly clothes. And - then she was an angel the rest of the day. Dropped her off in full Diego attire Friday morning, but when I picked her up, she was in Lilly clothes again. I was worried that she had acted up again - but apparently had just spilled something all over herself, so had to change. And, the good news was she didn't seem upset by it.

I quietly washed the outfit last night in case she insisted on it again today - but she put on regular clothes without asking for it. (She is off on an adventure w/ my Dad). She still insists on being called Diego - but the outfit seems to have lessened in importance...at least for now. We shall see ;)

diego update..

So she has only taken the outfit off to bathe and sleep. She wore it to Target Saturday, to Jamestown settlement w/ my dad Sunday, out to dinner with us on SUnday, and then to school today despite the fact that the character day isn't until Wednesday. Odds are still out on whether she will wear it to school tomorrow too...but you can bet your bottom dollar I am washing it tonight just in case (washed it Sat night, but didn't Sunday since it just didn't occur to me she would insist on wearing it today too!).

Her teachers were great sports and continue to play along...and they are all dying to see if she wears it tomorrow too! I will let you know.....c

Diego On the Go

Next week is "dress up as your favorite book character" day at school. Lilly has been planning for WEEKS and is so excited to get to dress up as Diego at school (yes - we still all have to call her Diego). I have been on the hunt for the various pieces of the outfit - we had some things that would work, but she has been very determined to match the picture in the book exactly...down to brown boots and green socks. Found those at a consignment store, but the khaki vest turned out to be the bigger challenge. BUT, finally last night Lilly and I headed to Bass Pro Shop's Outdoor World and found a youth small vest in the fly fishing section (audible sigh of relief...). We got home and she was dying to put on the whole outfit. These pictures are great...but they don't capture how she was physically BEAMING with joy and giggling outloud the whole time. She was soooo Happy (SO natuarlly I was beaming too). What fun. Enjoy the pics.

My Cinderella

So...it has been a difficult week where I work. We have had a number of layoffs this week - and the tension in the rooms could be cut with a knife. I feel very fortunate to still have a good job. On the flip side - it has been very hard as my position had me involved with many aspects of the staff reductions over the past few weeks. It is so emotionally awful I can't even tell you. Today a lot of news got delivered, and that combined with some other incidents at work that I won't go into made today one of the more draining days of my professional career.

I was driving in the car from work to day care just feeling numb. I was thinking about how the heck could I get my energy up to be "on" for Lil when I felt so numb. Then Steven Curtis Chapman's "Cinderella" came on the radio, and stopped me in my tracks. I have heard this song a million times, but never had it spoken so directly to my heart. The lyrics are below...

For those of you who aren't familiar with this artist - he is a Christian artist with a passion for adoption, and he and his wide have adopted 3 little girls from China. Last summer in a freak accident, one of his sons accidentally ran over the youngest girl in their driveway, killing her. It is a terrible story for any parent - but somehow struck the adoption community in an even more unique way. As adoptive parents we - or maybe I should just speak for myself - I feel such a sense of entrustment from the birthmother. I am just so freaking lucky and blessed beyond all measure - and feel such a sense of duty to the birthmother to honor her incredibly difficult decision. SOmehow - the Chapaman's family tragedy just made us all feel that even stronger. Anyway...after their tragedy, Steven Curtis Chapman rewrote the last verse of this song. His message is simple - take time for what is important.

So, as I drive into day care this evening with the actual weight of the world on my shoulders, I knew I didn't need to fake it for Lil tonight. I ran in and held her with all my might. She screams "DORA!" and ran over to me. I told "Diego" I loved her so much and almost squeezed the dickens out of her. We came home and colored (well - I did make myself a "real" drink tonight too) and did puzzles, and took a really long time with stories. The weight of the world will still be there tomorrow - but tonight I am not blessed with Cinderella, but with my very own Diego, and she is amazing, and keeping my head above water in this incredibly hard time.

Lyrics to Steven Curtis Chapman's "Cinderella":

She spins and she sways to whatever song plays,

Without a care in the world.

And I'm sittin' here wearin' the weight of the world on my shoulders.

It's been a long day and there's still work to do,

She's pulling at me saying "Dad I need you!

There's a ball at the castle and I've been invited and I need to practice my dancin'"

"Oh please, daddy, please!"

So I will dance with Cinderella

While she is here in my arms'

Cause I know something the prince never knew

Oh I will dance with Cinderella

I don't wanna miss even one song,

Cuz all too soon the clock will strike midnight

And she'll be gone

She says he's a nice guy and I'd be impressed

She wants to know if I approve of the dress

She says "Dad, the prom is just one week away,And I need to practice my dancin'"

"Oh please, daddy, please!"

So I will dance with Cinderella

While she is here in my arms'

Cause I know something the prince never knew

Ohh-oh ohh-oh, I will dance with Cinderella

I don't wanna miss even one song,

Cuz all too soon the clock will strike midnight

And she'll be gone She will be gone.

Well, she came home today

With a ring on her hand

Just glowin' and tellin' us all they had planned

She says "Dad, the wedding's still six months away

but I need to practice my dancin'"

"Oh please, daddy please!"

So I will dance with Cinderella

While she is here in my arms'

Cause I know something the prince never knew

Ohh-oh ohh-oh, I will dance with Cinderella

I don't wanna miss even one song, (even one song)

Cuz all too soon the clock will strike midnight

And she'll be gone

(kleenex anyone??)

Diego Does It Himself

My child is in a phase now where she is insisting that everyone call her Diego. The other day she looked at me and said - I swear...this is verbatim.... "My name is Lilly Marta Sc**** but you call me Diego." She makes me call her Diego, her teachers, her grandparents, everyone. She has also started to call me Dora. Sometimes it is Mommy Dora, Dora Mommy or just Dora. My mom seems to be Boots. Her teacher Ms. Alicia at school is Map. The other characters seem to be still evolving. It is sooooo funny. Its not like we have to be "playing" for this rule to be in effect. I pick her up from school and in the car on the way home she'll say, "Dora, I hungry," etc etc.

"Diego" is also in a phase where she has to do everything herself. I got these pics of her this morning as she was struggling to put on her own rain boots. Enjoy.....

Ahh...March...and BTW I LOVE Daylight Savings!

Last Monday it was fun in the snow...today it was 80 degrees. Lilly and I had a lovely walk after work, then played with bubbles in the driveway - all in T Shirts before her bath at 7. That is Spring in Virginia for you!

We had a great weekend.... Saturday Lilly and I went for a "walk around the block" that turned into a half mile walk to the park - an hour at the park, and hour at the adjoining "beach" playing in the sand and looking for shells, and then heading home for a late nap before Mae Mae came for her playdate.

Got to celebrate Jackson's Family Day with him & his parents on Sunday. I can't believe two years have gone by so fast! We joined them for a picnic and then headed to a paint your own pottery place...so fun!

Then Lil and I headed up to my parents' house where Dad watched Lil and Mom and I went shopping at the outlets...fun! Got lots of cute clothes for the spring & summer...all while trying to follow Lilly's edict of NO DRESSES.

By the way...I am beginning to realize that Lil is in this turquoise sweatshirt in most of my blog posts...I do promise - she wears other clothes...I just love the look & ease of this one!

SNOW DAY

We had our one snow of the year...and so we had a snow day! For reasons I still can't fathom, the hospital day care closes when the local city schools close... soooo... Lilly came to work with Mommy for the first part of the day (& Jackson went to school with his mommy). At lunchtime we picked Jackson up, Lilly & Jackson cmae to our house, where we met Mae Mae who was the superhero of the day & who watched them both all afternoon. Luckily, my late meetings got cancelled, so I got to come home a little early and we all played in the snow together. Very fun. Enjoy the pics....c

Nice Weekend....

We tried two adventures this weekend...one worked, one didn't. We headed to the Mid Atlantic Quilt Show Saturday morning...this is one of my FAVORITE events each year. I was really proud of Lil...she did great at the show and even tolerated me shopping for fabric and jewelry (there is a french fabric place that comes every year, and I am so addicted).

Here are some fun shots of some lovely quilts (that I never even hope to be able to mimic, but so great!), and Lilly's favorites.


Here is Lilly posing in front of the Lily quilt she found.

She was all excited to find an eagle quilt as I have started to call her Eagle Eye since she is always spotting school buses and the like when we are driving around.

This was her favorite quilt...all animals. She had brought her Baby Jaguar toy (sidekick to Diego on her favorite cartoon)...and wanted to show Baby Jaguar his picture on the quilt.

Later that day we headed to the CNU Basketball Game w/ Jackson and family...and that didn't go well at all. She was PETRIFIED. Actually...she was shaking in my arms, head buried in my chest, whimpering. So, needless to say, we didn't last long. She didn't like the noise, and she really didn't like the mascot, "Captain Chris" who looks a bit like the freakish Burger King King. We stayed about 15 minutes, and then left at halftime when Jackson & fam watched the rest of the game. Lilly has been talking about it ever since then...and she keeps telling me that when she is three she won't be afraid so we will go back then.

Da Da Da Da Da Dora

We had a GREAT "vacation" day today. I took of work, Lilly skipped school - as did Jackson & his mommy. We took the kids to see a matinee of "Dora Live." We met for a "fancy" breakfast (ie not in our kitchen but at a restaurant - Cracker Barrel), headed downtown for the show, and then met up with Jackson's dad for lunch. It was a hoot...the kids didn't quite know what to make of it at first. Lilly enjoyed most of it...but gave out at the end and had to leave the theatre to hang out in the lobby with me. She said it was just too loud - not sure if that is still due to her ruptured ear drum or what. Anyway...fun day...enjoy the pics...

Train Day Pictures...

Here are some fun pictures from our visit with Mom & Dad's neighbor, who has an AMAZING train set up in his basement.

The Conductor....

Inspecting the line...

Thought we were healthy....

but then Lilly woke up this morning with a burst eardrum!!!!

I feel so bad - it must have hurt like the dickens, but she didn't say anything! Last night she was a little fussy, but siad her teeth hurt. I felt back on her gums & you can tell her last molars are starting to come in, so I gave her motrin and didn't think more about it. Then this morning she had brown/orange/yellow snot oozing from her left ear and her hair was all matted down with the dried, crusty orange junk that had come out over night. GROSS. But, they say that once it bursts it really feels much better, and she is acting totally healthy today. I still feel bad. Before her ear tube surgery, whenever she had an ear infection she had temps of 102+, but she hasn't had a temp in over a week. And, she never complaine,d acted super clingy, etc. So - I am trying to convince myself not to beat up on myself too much. She's on antibiotics now (again), and will be back at school tomorrow.

Ironically, we had a follow up appointment with her ENT for yesterday that had to get changed due to his surgery schedule...but it got moved to a few weeks from now, so we will see him then. I was so excited for her to swim without ear plugs now, but guess that will have to wait another summer :(

A Funny...

We are both doing MUCH better now...back at school & work. We had a nice weekend - especially Staurday where we spent the day with just the two of us playing, etc. Was very nice. Sunday went to see a spectacular toy train set up at my parents' neighbor's house...pics to follow soon.

But - I really had to share a funny story. Lilly really is into the Veggie Tales characters right now, and we often listen to one of their CDs in the car. This morning we were listening to it and she heard a part where they were talking, and a character said ...

"want me to pick up your toupe from the dry cleaners?"

to which Lilly replies, "Mommy that's so SILLY! You don't put toothpaste in the dryer!!!"

Had me laughing all the way to work. ;)

Rough Week...

Lilly had been sick, and then I got it. We were FINALLY both on our last dose of antibiotics this past week....but Lil then woke up on Wednesday with a 102 fever...it was more or less controlled with tylenol & motrin...and her snot factory was on overdrive. But then Thursday I had my latest bout of vertigo strike. SO....I am dizzy and have no balance, and she is a burning up snot factory. We definietly needed help, so my parents jumped in and helped a lot. Friday night after mom & dad had left, her fever went higher and higher despite the tylenol & motrin, and then in her bath she crumpled over in the fetal position, whimpering, non coherent babbling. Scared the crap out of me. After her fever went UP to 103.7 after the motrin, I decided I couldn't wait it out and threw her in the car in and headed to the emergency room. I am still dizzy... but adrenaline is a very powerful force, so I somehow got her there. And of course, in the 2 mile/5 min drive to the hospital, her fever dropped to 101.5 and she was back to her normal self. Murphy's Law I guess! But, the checked her out to be sure she didn't have any infections (ear, strep throat, etc), and she didn't. SO, we headed home to let her virus run its course. FInally last night (Sun) she had her first night without a high temp. She has been fever free for about 36 hours now, so she will definitely be going to "school" tomorrow. Anyway...rough week...any prayer, thoughts, good wishes or good karma would be appreciated.